Wednesday, August 10, 2011

Write On Wednesdays--Character Development

Write On WednesdaysWrite On Wednesdays Exercise 9 - Think with Character. This week's WOW from inkpaperpen is about character development. The exercise was to choose a character from your writing posts in regards to their: gender, age, occupation, physical appearance and mood at this moment, etc. I am not on the fiction track just yet in my writing so my contribution is from the quotes on character that she also provided.

"We have no right to ask when a sorrow comes, 'Why did this happen to me?' unless we ask the same question for every joy that comes our way.”

MyGayla, beautiful sister and
best friend, you made our
lives whole.

My personal character is in question when I think of this quote. If I had a nickle for the number of times in my life that I have said or thought, "Why me?", especially in the last four and a half months, I would be well provided for going on. No one is exempt from suffering. Even though we are all missing Gayla, we are not the first people to lose a daughter, sister, aunt, or friend. Yet, I am overwhelmed with grief this week, and I don't know why. It felt for a while like inch-by-inch, I was starting to adjust. Then, beginning Monday, I have just felt like the pulleys failed and the ton of bricks fell on top of me. I should be grateful for the loving husband I waited so long for, the smart and beautiful daughter I longed for all my life, the dependable friends who make me laugh, and the close family who prop me up. I am blessed, and given my selfishness, I wonder, "Why me?" Ding!


  1. That's the way of grief Jaimee. You take steps forward and you fall back but it doesn't wipe out the steps you've taken forward completely.

    Being grateful for the things you have doesn't stop you feeling the loss, please don't feel it should. You are entitled to feel both without feeling any guilt. It doesn't make you selfish, it makes you human. x

  2. A very genuine piece; I echo Sarah Mac too. Be gentle on yourself :)

  3. Wonderful piece, and huge hugs to you. Take care of yourself.

  4. A raw and heartfelt piece. Much love to you. Grief is an unwieldy beast who will let you believe you have tamed him, only to drag you over broken rock and through mud. I'm so sorry you have to experience this pain. Be kind to yourself, it is a difficult path to tread for anyone.

  5. So beautifully written. I hope things improve for you soon. All the best!

  6. Beautifully, raw and carefully written. I admire you for writing it.

    Thank you for sharing.

  7. Gorgeous, Jaimee.

    Grief is a loooong process. My own sister died when I was 7mths old at the age of 17. Day by day, you know?

    Thanks for writing this. And for your gorgeous comment on my blog, too! xx

  8. Thank you all for the love and support. I started blogging to help heal some of the pain of this loss. It means so much that you all came to visit and leave me some encouragement.

  9. Jaimee - you have a wonderful way of expressing emotion through your words.In the few weeks I have been reading your blog I have read humour, happiness, grief and guilt. I hope you can continue to find some healing through your writing, in the same way others no doubt find comfort in reading your words.